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Pamela Wang, PhD's avatar

This applies to everything with an inbox not just email.

This is how I approach my note taking system too. If it’s overwhelming me, I take everything and I toss it into archive so my inbox is clear.

Sometimes I worry that I’ll miss an important to do or some idea that was really valuable that I should have explored. But honestly, it’s better than not having a note taking system which is what happens when I am really overwhelmed and I look at the system that is way too full and I don’t want to use it at all so I just go without.

Bob Doto’s Systems of Writing 📕 also talk about the idea of a sleeping folder for this exact reason. It is too hard to throw things away, so it feels better to put it into a separate folder where it can no longer bother us.

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Lauren K.'s avatar

Every word of this is relateable!

One of my biggest challenges these days is texting. It contributes to my RSD in a huge way. I find email a little gentler because there's less of an expectation to answer a personal email right away. But texting...I almost feel like I'm intruding or being demanding by texting people. I'm always convinced that people don't want to hear from me in that way.

And on the other hand, if people text ME, and I delay for too long on replying ("oh, they're going to think I'm clingy and have no other friends if I reply right away, so I'll wait a little while"), it will simply never happen.

I'm in a ridic stalemate with my nextdoor neighbor who texted me really kindly over a month ago after we hung out. I didn't reply that day, and then every day became "I'll reply tomorrow" and now I'm the absolute weirdo who lives next door and who is avoiding her. Ugh!

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